An untouched subject yet deserving of so much attention in this day and age…
To many of us, what may seem so simple has become a difficult thing alot of us have come to deal with at some point in our life is…
Can you guess what “it” is?
Learning how to leave food on our plate and understanding our own hunger ⚡⚡⚡
Simple right?!? Well, maybe…
How many times have you been eating something and become full, yet still devour the rest of whats on your plate?
Many of us seem to start this habit early on in life. Generally learned from our parents or grandparents passed down generation after another at kitchen tables and in our familys’ home. We are told since we are young children “Do not leave anything on your plate and finish what is left.” Sound familiar? Maybe you even have a few funny stories to share?!
For me, as a child, my mother would tell me how there’s starving kids in Africa and I should be grateful that I have food as if this somehow would make more room appear in my belly or make me hungry.
My confused and innocent response was always…. “why dont you send it to Africa then?!?” Nonetheless, I spent several nights sleeping at the kitchen table unable to finish what was left 🤷♀️😴
Sometimes my mother would let me eat in the living room, which was amazing. I had this ceramic piggy bank I would stuff my leftovers in and hide behind the couch. “This is so wonderful…” I thought, “Finally I could make my mom happy and I didnt have to be punished for not finishing my food!!”
Worked great!…. til she went looking for the rotten smell and found it one day 😳
Opa! Back to the bigger story here!
What does this later turn into for us as adults in life?
Eating disorders, obesity, diabetes, cancer, digestive disorders, body dysmorphia and all sorts of other physical and mental issues related to us not truly tuning into our bodies.
Not sensing our internal world mentally and physically, we fail to realize when we are full and satisfied. We have been programmed to tune out our greatest gift, our natural senses and connection to our own inner workings.
How is this witnessed? Or what does it mean? This could be when we overeat or binge, finishing every bit of food regardless of the fact we felt full half the plate ago. Some individuals may even develop a eating disorder like bulimia or anorexia. Most often many of us however are left feeling guilt or shame after eating. Unconsciously eating out of habit and not because we are actually even hungry.
Moving forward… The real question we must ask ourselves is… What is there to be learned from this? Theres two major aspects Id like to focus our time on.
First…. where it often all begins… as children.
We should never force our children to eat. Kids need energy, let them honor their body and stayed tuned into their hunger sensations. No kid will intentionally starve themselves. Kids cry that they are hungry more often that they are not.
Children are born pure, in the sense they are untampered with or changed by societal views, influence or pressure. Very much so in tune with their own inner being. As they age, what we call parenting, is often us programming them based on our experiences, but also our own issues and fears.
Many parent believe they are ALWAYS “protecting or teaching” their children, but how many times have we ourselves been caught unraveling from some irrational fear or motive that we discover has stemmed from parental programming? Yes, we are here to guide and protect our children, but we must be in alignment and rational when doing so.
The other major part we should focus on is the NOW. How do we work through this habit now that it is active and fully developed into our lives?
First and most importantly, one thing we can do, is start by never forcing ourselves to finish our food when we are already full or satisfied.
Continuing to overeat only ends up creating a negative relationship with food. Not only can food become a mental or emotional addiction or unconscious habit, but it also overworks our insides when in excess and stretching out our stomach and taxing our organs.
One important aspect to think about in terms of health… If we are spending our entire day digesting food, when does our body and our liver have time to go through and focus on cleaning and healing?
Our body has the ability to heal anything. As a Cancer Thriver, reversing my own illness through lifestyle, mindset, and diet change, I can fully attest to the bodys miraculous inner strengths!
If the entire day is spent digesting food and massive meals however, we become backed up. Often witnessed as lethargy, the body slowing down, this is how and when illness begins to form. When we are constantly finding ourselves left exhausted after a meal or needing rest instead of energized.
We eat purely for ENERGY!……. REREAD THAT AGAIN!!
If we overeat or spend all day eating, we lose it all. Think about that…⚡💡
Sometimes a great thing to remember to put our “hangry mind” at ease while we begin to deprogram…. is that we may always take more food if we are hungry later.
A mind trick I learned years ago is that if we find ourselves overeating and unable to leave any food on our plates, the best thing we can do is…. START with USING A SMALLER PLATE! We will still be getting a full plate of food but now just portioned a little better for our changing mind. Slightly illusionary and greatly impactful.
What about if we already have taken a larger plate or don’t have the option to choose the quantity?
Save it!! We can put what’s left over in a container and save it. Or simply put the entire plate in the fridge. Who decided that our meals should be separated into such portions and spread out this or that way?
We should give a thought to where this belief even began. As history has shown, as well as common sense, humans originate from tropics and other forested areas where trees bearing food and crops were growing readily available. We are by nature, hunters and gatherers.
In todays fast pace and forever moving environment having a set schedule for eating may allow us to simplify this our basic nutritional needs. One less concern and concept to fill our minds, more time to focus on our lives…. Sounds right? well kinda… See… This is in fact for many where the disconnect begins or becomes rooted.
In reality, the human species, if we look back over time or into our primitive roots would be eating and taking only what we needed from trees as to not have to carry excess and also to prevent food from spoiling carelessly. We also would only be eating food as we came across it.
Putting things in perspective, breaking our food into set schedules and portions goes against everything natural in our bodies. Instead of eating when we have hunger, we are told we need a set amount of calories to function and focus on that. Arranging diets and meal plans trying to pack it in or balance it out. Yet the amount of calories we use and burn each day is always varying.
When we begin to break this programmed cycle and focus more on our connection to the food and our bodies we will begin to notice that all these thoughts and concepts just mentioned really resonate with us.
When we eat to satisfy our hunger needs versus eating just to finish our plates or get our calories in, we will also see our mind and physical body narurally each day becoming more and more in balance.
Its not about calories or nutrition. If we are listening to the body. We will have a natural sense and connection to what is needed. We will begin to realize what our actual hunger is and what is our programmed concept of it.
If we eat a meal and want to lay down and not do anything, maintaining self awareness, we will begin to realize this pattern. If we find ourselves eating less and tiring quickly, we will also see our pattern around this. Everything helping to illuminate and understand ourselves much better.
Its time we take the initiative… its time we start to tuning into our bodies more and learning when we are satiated and full. We need to release these rules, concepts, and belief systems we have set up around eating.
We also should abandon the concept of DIET… toss that word out unless its being used descriptively and not as an action 🤪
With all these thoughts in mind and things we just learned, its no wonder why us as a society or individual often YO-YO with weightloss or struggle with even getting started. We are literally living in a system that goes against everything in our core as a conscious intuitive being. We are living against our own nature in so many aspects.
As we tune back into ourselves, we will see how useless the idea of dietting truly is. It’s time we bring it back to our roots and natural selves, and its time to create a healthier relationship with how we view food and take it into our bodies.
And please dont get me wrong, sure, we can eat what we set out for ourselves and always finish our set portion in a setting, keep our caloric balance, but at what cost to our mental and physical well being, if we are not listening to the body and respecting ourselves and honoring our points of satiation or eating what the body is actually asking for?
What actual cost does this end up being to us later? We are left Tired, Moody, Gaining Weight, with Guilt, Shame, the list can go out…. Lethargy, Illness, Disease…
The question we are left with is… How do we make use of all we have just learned? With all we have just read. Where can we go from here?
Let’s keep it simple and let our bodies naturally guide us back to ourselves. Try for a meal to just stop eating when you start to feel full. Not stuffed but satisfied. Key word… SATISFIED. Put the rest away, save it for later, or whatever you wish to do. But honor your body in this moment and listen to it. You can also take a smaller plate at your next meal. See how this concept works for you as well.
Tune into these moments and connect with how you feel after… This connection will begin to teach you all you need to know. As you begin to practice regularly you will find yourself each day amazed…
As a society, on all levels, we do not need more diet tips and food plans, we simply need to begin to reconnect to our own intuitive inner beings.
Its time that we redevelop our own MODERATION. It’s time we tune back into our bodies and understanding our hunger again. We can no longer silence the natural ability inside of us if we want to live healthy happy lives
Eating food isnt a task, it is NOURISHMENT. Treat it as that! Its time that we remember and relearn to love and feel good about all that we take into our bodies, without guilt, without shame, without limits, without it being on a schedule, without it being a program….
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